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Need Someone to Talk To – Feeling Suicidal Feeling Alone

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Need Someone to Talk To?

To this day it still amazes me when people don’t or can’t understand why someone would commit suicide. The answer is obvious though, they’ve never felt truly alone. Sometimes you just need someone to talk to and when you realize you really don’t have anyone (or at least anyone you actually feel like you can turn to) it can be not only a lonely feeling, but a debilitating one.

How can I know this?

Because I have felt suicidal. I have felt so alone with no one to turn to that the idea of just “ending that kind of pain” seemed like the rational thing to do. Being secluded and isolated in life is a terrible feeling.

Isolation is a form of punishment, so anyone who feels this way even if they aren’t technically in prison knows this.

The other day I felt this low. I knew it was temporary. I knew that my mind/mood would change so I waited it out. Things haven’t changed, I’m still low – but no longer suicidal. It’s a strange thing.

But at the time when I was that low I went looking online for help. I found some cool sites that I thought would help me, ironically one of them supposedly had a chat line where you could talk to someone. But when I finally got the guts to click Chat, guess what? No one was there.

I journal. And the fact that no one was there when I needed them got me thinking. Sometimes just airing what is bothering you can help. Not completely, but it can help. So I am offering you a place here to do just that. I may not be here to chat with in your time of need RIGHT when you need me. But I am giving you an outlet to share with someone who cares how you are feeling.

If you need someone to talk to, if you are feeling alone, lonely, or suicidal. Please, send me a message and tell me what’s wrong. I care. You matter and if you really feel like there is no one you can turn to, please turn to me.

You can contact me HERE and tell me anything you wish. I will get back to you as soon as I possibly can, but the bottom line is that I’m hoping knowing that I’m here, that I care, and that you are able to vent your feelings to another human being will help you get over your difficult and low moment.

As I said, I journal. But that can only help so much. I did eventually break down that night and email a friend of mine. I knew he wouldn’t be writing me back any time soon, but it helped me a little to know that he does care and that I was able to share my low moment with him.

I want to be that person for you. Suicidal thoughts can be very scary. And coming close to actually acting on them can be even scarier.

I know from personal experience it doesn’t help when people say “you are not alone.” It really doesn’t, does it?

Maybe you have TONS of friends but feel like you don’t have any, or that they actually care about you. Maybe you don’t have any friends or very few.

It doesn’t seem to matter what our station is in life, how many people we have that claim to care. When you feel alone, you feel that way for a reason.

I think the worst thing is when you try to turn to someone and they look down upon you for being what they would call “weak”. When they don’t take your feelings seriously, simply because they can’t understand, because they’ve never been there.

Well, I’ve been there. It still happens to me sometimes. And I care. So please, consider me your friend. And send me a message.

I actually wrote this post a few days before Robin Williams committed suicide. I am so saddened by his loss, as I know so many are. It will always amaze me that with all of the people in the world, no matter who you are, we still end up feeling alone. And…obviously sometimes we truly are or there wouldn’t be those moments in time when people could actually carry out their plan. For me, it is rarely a plan – it is something that comes up due to an overwhelming emotion or pain. If we all had someone who could help pull us back from the brink, Robin Williams and so many others would still be alive. His moment of despair would have passed (yes he probably would have had more) but he also would have had many more happy moments too. Such a tragedy. Please, please, please! If you feel this low, write me, call someone, do ANYTHING but listen to the dark thoughts in your head.

Don’t Jump Until You’ve Talked to Me!!

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Thinking of you,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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Get Off Your Butt and Do Something!

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Get Off Your Butt and Do Something

How to Get Motivated:

Get Off Your Butt and Get Moving!

Okay, that was mostly geared toward myself, but maybe it applies to you too. In all probability it might. How do I know?

Because as humans we tend to get into these nasty cycles of being unproductive. True, there is usually a reason for it – sometimes entirely legitimate, but let’s face it…sometimes we are just either lazy or overwhelmed to the point that we get paralyzed and end up doing nothing.

If you are currently in that state, as I have been in the last couple of weeks due to some “issues” and the fact that it’s summer and my kids are monopolizing my time, I have a few tips that might help you get out of it.

The First Step:


Don’t blame yourself. Accept that it is natural to enter these states from time to time and they actually have a purpose that they serve.

Rest.

Sometimes, we need it. Life can get pretty stressful at times and we often feel like we simply CAN’T stop because there is just too much to do. Like the entire world would fall off its axis if god forbid we took a break.

We all know that isn’t true.

You do know that right?

You are important, but you aren’t THAT important (as to affect the axis of the world.)

So, accept that you need a break and realize that the much needed “lazy” unproductive time will actually serve you better when you do finally get off your BUTT and start doing things again.

The only thing you want to be wary of is, sometimes it gets pretty darn comfortable on your butt and you really don’t want to get off it.

You can take this to mean two things, one) either it just isn’t time to get going yet or two) you have overstayed your welcome and its gone numb.

Which brings me to…

The Second Step:


Get Off Your Butt

Pretty obvious, yes? But not easy to do sometimes. It takes mental stimulation, it takes will power, strength and sometimes a drive you just aren’t feeling yet. But you have to FORCE it, sorry to say. But sometimes you truly just have to convince yourself to do it.

It’s time.

Don’t feel any guilt over the fact that you needed the rest. Thoroughly enjoy it and when it’s time (it’s pretty easy to tell when it’s time), get moving again.

Return to life and resume your routines. But this time around…mix it up a little!

Sometimes those moments of burnout happen and you end up on your bum because you didn’t take any time for yourself in the daily grind that is life. It is essential that you do. Otherwise you get bored. You get exhausted. And you simply can’t function at your best.

So after you’ve gotten off your darier this time, make sure you schedule some “YOU” time and do something that you enjoy during each and every day. Yes, I said everyday!

I’m a firm believer in making each day count.

I stopped calling it, “Live today as if it were your last”, frankly because that just seemed morbid and depressing.

Instead, I say make each and every day count because each day is an amazing gift. And one that should be cherished. You don’t have to have a scarcity mindset, or even an abundance attitude that you have all the time in the world.

You simply have to realize that each moment is something special and each day should include something that will make it an AMAZING one for you.

Yes, we all have to do things we don’t like or want to do. But we are still essentially in control of our own lives, destiny and we do have choices. So, choose YOURSELF more often and you will likely not find yourself on your butt unable or unwilling to get off of it.

I will say, my excuse this time was warranted, because I wanted to spend my time with my children while they are out of school. Selfish I know. But I figured a lot of my work could wait. So I allowed myself the time to spend with them and enjoy it.

Yes, I felt a little guilty that my work was waiting for me. But guess, my work doesn’t have a voice. It only does if I let it.

So how do you get off your butt when you are so “attached” to your current cushion? Take a deep breath. Think about and appreciate the break you just took for yourself and think about ONE thing that you should probably get to.

Just one thing. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the LONG list that probably awaits you, that’s only going to make you SIT longer, trust me. Just come up with ONE thing that you should focus on.

Take another deep breath and get up and do that ONE thing.

My guess, once you get up and your legs realize they CAN move, you’ll easily move onto the other tasks that await you.

Being “stuck” can lead to depression, too many thoughts (often negative) and usually force you to stay down.

My daughter (the 8 year old genius) put it perfectly the other day when I asked her: “Why do our minds always go to the “what ifs” in life? Why do we tend to always focus on the negative that will likely never happen?”

I was kind of just speaking out loud at the time. I didn’t expect such an insightful answer from her. And one I already knew, but couldn’t come up with on my own in that moment, don’t ask me why.

She said: “Because we have too much time on our hands.”

It’s true. We do.

Well, most of us. Even when we work and have a million tasks to do. We still have too much time to THINK. Our lifestyle of convenience has made it so.

If we lived elsewhere and our entire day was only focused on SURVIVAL, guess what? You wouldn’t be what if-ing really stupid things that you can’t control anyway.

You were likely feeling overwhelmed when you sat down. You sat down for a reason, it’s okay. Enjoy your rest, and get up when you’re ready.

Don’t take too long – the world awaits you!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter, or if you’re stuck and need some motivation. Please leave me a comment below.

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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