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Get Off Your Butt and Do Something!

Get Off Your Butt and Do Something

How to Get Motivated:

Get Off Your Butt and Get Moving!

Okay, that was mostly geared toward myself, but maybe it applies to you too. In all probability it might. How do I know?

Because as humans we tend to get into these nasty cycles of being unproductive. True, there is usually a reason for it – sometimes entirely legitimate, but let’s face it…sometimes we are just either lazy or overwhelmed to the point that we get paralyzed and end up doing nothing.

If you are currently in that state, as I have been in the last couple of weeks due to some “issues” and the fact that it’s summer and my kids are monopolizing my time, I have a few tips that might help you get out of it.

The First Step:

Don’t blame yourself. Accept that it is natural to enter these states from time to time and they actually have a purpose that they serve.


Sometimes, we need it. Life can get pretty stressful at times and we often feel like we simply CAN’T stop because there is just too much to do. Like the entire world would fall off its axis if god forbid we took a break.

We all know that isn’t true.

You do know that right?

You are important, but you aren’t THAT important (as to affect the axis of the world.)

So, accept that you need a break and realize that the much needed “lazy” unproductive time will actually serve you better when you do finally get off your BUTT and start doing things again.

The only thing you want to be wary of is, sometimes it gets pretty darn comfortable on your butt and you really don’t want to get off it.

You can take this to mean two things, one) either it just isn’t time to get going yet or two) you have overstayed your welcome and its gone numb.

Which brings me to…

The Second Step:

Get Off Your Butt

Pretty obvious, yes? But not easy to do sometimes. It takes mental stimulation, it takes will power, strength and sometimes a drive you just aren’t feeling yet. But you have to FORCE it, sorry to say. But sometimes you truly just have to convince yourself to do it.

It’s time.

Don’t feel any guilt over the fact that you needed the rest. Thoroughly enjoy it and when it’s time (it’s pretty easy to tell when it’s time), get moving again.

Return to life and resume your routines. But this time around…mix it up a little!

Sometimes those moments of burnout happen and you end up on your bum because you didn’t take any time for yourself in the daily grind that is life. It is essential that you do. Otherwise you get bored. You get exhausted. And you simply can’t function at your best.

So after you’ve gotten off your darier this time, make sure you schedule some “YOU” time and do something that you enjoy during each and every day. Yes, I said everyday!

I’m a firm believer in making each day count.

I stopped calling it, “Live today as if it were your last”, frankly because that just seemed morbid and depressing.

Instead, I say make each and every day count because each day is an amazing gift. And one that should be cherished. You don’t have to have a scarcity mindset, or even an abundance attitude that you have all the time in the world.

You simply have to realize that each moment is something special and each day should include something that will make it an AMAZING one for you.

Yes, we all have to do things we don’t like or want to do. But we are still essentially in control of our own lives, destiny and we do have choices. So, choose YOURSELF more often and you will likely not find yourself on your butt unable or unwilling to get off of it.

I will say, my excuse this time was warranted, because I wanted to spend my time with my children while they are out of school. Selfish I know. But I figured a lot of my work could wait. So I allowed myself the time to spend with them and enjoy it.

Yes, I felt a little guilty that my work was waiting for me. But guess, my work doesn’t have a voice. It only does if I let it.

So how do you get off your butt when you are so “attached” to your current cushion? Take a deep breath. Think about and appreciate the break you just took for yourself and think about ONE thing that you should probably get to.

Just one thing. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the LONG list that probably awaits you, that’s only going to make you SIT longer, trust me. Just come up with ONE thing that you should focus on.

Take another deep breath and get up and do that ONE thing.

My guess, once you get up and your legs realize they CAN move, you’ll easily move onto the other tasks that await you.

Being “stuck” can lead to depression, too many thoughts (often negative) and usually force you to stay down.

My daughter (the 8 year old genius) put it perfectly the other day when I asked her: “Why do our minds always go to the “what ifs” in life? Why do we tend to always focus on the negative that will likely never happen?”

I was kind of just speaking out loud at the time. I didn’t expect such an insightful answer from her. And one I already knew, but couldn’t come up with on my own in that moment, don’t ask me why.

She said: “Because we have too much time on our hands.”

It’s true. We do.

Well, most of us. Even when we work and have a million tasks to do. We still have too much time to THINK. Our lifestyle of convenience has made it so.

If we lived elsewhere and our entire day was only focused on SURVIVAL, guess what? You wouldn’t be what if-ing really stupid things that you can’t control anyway.

You were likely feeling overwhelmed when you sat down. You sat down for a reason, it’s okay. Enjoy your rest, and get up when you’re ready.

Don’t take too long – the world awaits you!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter, or if you’re stuck and need some motivation. Please leave me a comment below.


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Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms – Is Broken Heart Syndrome Real?

Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms

Broken Heart Syndrome?

If you’ve ever had your heart broken (and who hasn’t?), then you know that the physical pain from it is very real. But did you know that broken heart syndrome is an actual thing? That it can actually damage your heart, depending on its severity and cause (and other risk factors per individual)?

While being hurt by a loved one, losing a loved one, being dumped by someone does indeed hurt. Sometimes that hurt can be so intense that it can actually cause physical harm to your body.

During a particularly low period in my life I can attest to the truth of this.

So what is broken heart syndrome?

Put simply, broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition that is brought on by a stressful situation. This can include the death of a loved one, but it can also include a severe emotional trauma caused by a signifigant other.

The person experiencing this syndrome may have sudden chest pain that mimics a heart attack. When this occurs there is a temporary disruption of your heart’s normal pumping function while the rest of your heart continues to function normally – but often with more forceful contractions.

They believe this is caused by a surge of stress hormones. It is completely treatable and typically will reverse itself in about a week.

Broken heart syndrome symptoms can include chest pain and shortness of breath. If these symptoms persist it is vital that you call 911 and seek help.

The catalyst to this syndrome is usually evident to the person experiencing it. You know when your heart hurts over a loved one, right? I sure did. It’s believed that adrenaline may temporarily damage the heart of some people, but they aren’t completely clear on why or how. They think a temporary constriction of the large or small arteries of the heart may be why.

Some Possible Triggers for Broken Heart Syndrome

BHS if often preceded by an intense physical or emotional trauma. These can include:

– an unexpected death of a loved one
– domestic abuse
– the loss of a considerable amount of money
– a scary medical diagnosis
– natural disasters
– performing live
– losing a job
– divorce
– a breakup
– asthma attack
– car accident
– major surgery

They also believe that it’s possible that some drugs may cause broken heart syndrome by producing the same result of a release of stress hormones. Some of these drugs include:
– Epinephrine
– Duloxetine
– Venlafaxine
– Levothyroxine

Even though symptoms of broken heart syndrome can appear to be a heart attack, there are some clear distinctions between the two. Heart attacks are typically caused by a complete blockage of a heart artery. Whereas with broken heart syndrome patients, heart arteries are not blocked. Blood flow may reduced, but there is no blockage.

Interestingly, but not surprisingly, BHS affects women far more frequently than men.

But enough about the facts. I want to hear from you. Obviously, you are reading this post because you believe you are suffering from broken heart syndrome. Being someone who has, I know first hand how frightening it can be. Though my symptoms never forced me to hospital
, I did experience a severity so great that I truly could feel my heart weakened.

I can attest that these symptoms are temporary and do right themselves after a time. But the release of the stress hormones and what they are capable of doing to the body is astonishing and quite scary.

The best thing, if your symptoms are not requiring a doctors invervention, is to distract yourself enough to let the intensity pass. Talking with someone is one of the best ways, as is distracting yourself with exercise, work, hobbies and being around friends.

In a moment of crisis, however, this can be impossible. It is no different than when you experience a heart attack, actually. And in those moments, you are only concerned with and consumed by the scary feelings in that moment.

But if you have confirmed that it isn’t a heart attack, or you just know based on what caused the symptoms in the first place, then I think you will be relieved to know that you will be okay.

Please leave me a comment or contact me personally here if you would like to speak to me directly.

Let time heal your heart, you are a strong and resilient person. This too shall pass. I assure you. I’ve been there and I know first hand. In my darkest hour I never thought I’d see light again. But I did, and so will you!

Your Friend,


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