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Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms – Is Broken Heart Syndrome Real?

Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms

Broken Heart Syndrome?

If you’ve ever had your heart broken (and who hasn’t?), then you know that the physical pain from it is very real. But did you know that broken heart syndrome is an actual thing? That it can actually damage your heart, depending on its severity and cause (and other risk factors per individual)?

While being hurt by a loved one, losing a loved one, being dumped by someone does indeed hurt. Sometimes that hurt can be so intense that it can actually cause physical harm to your body.

During a particularly low period in my life I can attest to the truth of this.

So what is broken heart syndrome?

Put simply, broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition that is brought on by a stressful situation. This can include the death of a loved one, but it can also include a severe emotional trauma caused by a signifigant other.

The person experiencing this syndrome may have sudden chest pain that mimics a heart attack. When this occurs there is a temporary disruption of your heart’s normal pumping function while the rest of your heart continues to function normally – but often with more forceful contractions.

They believe this is caused by a surge of stress hormones. It is completely treatable and typically will reverse itself in about a week.

Broken heart syndrome symptoms can include chest pain and shortness of breath. If these symptoms persist it is vital that you call 911 and seek help.

The catalyst to this syndrome is usually evident to the person experiencing it. You know when your heart hurts over a loved one, right? I sure did. It’s believed that adrenaline may temporarily damage the heart of some people, but they aren’t completely clear on why or how. They think a temporary constriction of the large or small arteries of the heart may be why.

Some Possible Triggers for Broken Heart Syndrome

BHS if often preceded by an intense physical or emotional trauma. These can include:

– an unexpected death of a loved one
– domestic abuse
– the loss of a considerable amount of money
– a scary medical diagnosis
– natural disasters
– performing live
– losing a job
– divorce
– a breakup
– asthma attack
– car accident
– major surgery

They also believe that it’s possible that some drugs may cause broken heart syndrome by producing the same result of a release of stress hormones. Some of these drugs include:
– Epinephrine
– Duloxetine
– Venlafaxine
– Levothyroxine

Even though symptoms of broken heart syndrome can appear to be a heart attack, there are some clear distinctions between the two. Heart attacks are typically caused by a complete blockage of a heart artery. Whereas with broken heart syndrome patients, heart arteries are not blocked. Blood flow may reduced, but there is no blockage.

Interestingly, but not surprisingly, BHS affects women far more frequently than men.

But enough about the facts. I want to hear from you. Obviously, you are reading this post because you believe you are suffering from broken heart syndrome. Being someone who has, I know first hand how frightening it can be. Though my symptoms never forced me to hospital
, I did experience a severity so great that I truly could feel my heart weakened.

I can attest that these symptoms are temporary and do right themselves after a time. But the release of the stress hormones and what they are capable of doing to the body is astonishing and quite scary.

The best thing, if your symptoms are not requiring a doctors invervention, is to distract yourself enough to let the intensity pass. Talking with someone is one of the best ways, as is distracting yourself with exercise, work, hobbies and being around friends.

In a moment of crisis, however, this can be impossible. It is no different than when you experience a heart attack, actually. And in those moments, you are only concerned with and consumed by the scary feelings in that moment.

But if you have confirmed that it isn’t a heart attack, or you just know based on what caused the symptoms in the first place, then I think you will be relieved to know that you will be okay.

Please leave me a comment or contact me personally here if you would like to speak to me directly.

Let time heal your heart, you are a strong and resilient person. This too shall pass. I assure you. I’ve been there and I know first hand. In my darkest hour I never thought I’d see light again. But I did, and so will you!

Your Friend,


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Depressed and Lonely – How to Be Happy With Yourself and Life

Depressed and LonelyAre you feeling depressed and lonely today? I know it doesn’t help one bit if I say, you are not alone in this. Because you’ll snap back at me (as I’ve done on more than one occasion) and say, “Yes, I am!” Or at the very least you’ll not care at all if other people are out there feeling alone and depressed.

YOU are feeling sad and depressed and it really doesn’t matter what other people are feeling. YOU matter.

I know this feeling well, so I’ve researched and read a lot of things to discover ways of how I can be happier, whether I’m alone or not. One of the best books I have found (although there are a few I would highly recommend) that can show you how to be happy with yourself and life is Richard Carlson’s book, “You Can Be Happy No Matter What.”

The title speaks for itself, it’s so obvious in almost a cliche sort of way that you probably won’t pick it and read it because you don’t believe him. I recommend you pick it up anyway.

I won’t leave you hanging with just a book recommendation though. I will outline a little bit about it, but mostly I’ll give you my own insight to what I’ve discovered about being happy regardless of your circumstances by managing emotions.

What Can You Do To Make Yourself Happy?

The BEST thing you can do…is GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD!

Your thoughts are what are making you so miserable. Yes, I know you are lonely. I know it is a reality that you might not have as many friends as you’d like, if any…that work, debt, obligations are stressing you out. That you can’t find the man of your dreams and finally start the life you’ve been waiting for.

Your circumstances are real. Yes. Definitely, I’m not arguing that case at all. However, and I speak from experience that this is true, you can still learn how to and control how your thoughts affect you.

Thoughts, moods, other people’s moods, all of these internal and external forces can make you feel and think a certain way, and THAT is a huge contributor to why you feel depressed and lonely.

Depression can actually still be with you even if you are in a room full of people. Loneliness too for that matter, because you aren’t feeling the connections and love that you desire.

When you actually are alone these feelings are amplified, sometimes unbearably so.

There are five principles that Richard Carlson covers in his book.

Steps On How to Be Happy

– The Principle of Thought
– The Principle of Moods
– The Principle of Separate Realities
– The Principle of Feelings
– The Principle of the Present Moment

It is quite remarkable how suseptible we are to our thoughts and moods. They can change how we feel about something on a dime. Once minute we might be thinking positively about a scenario and the next with a low mood we have complete negative thoughts about that same scenario.

The real kicker is, even when we are in a good mood, we are influenced by other people’s moods. We can actually be going along in life smiling and happy only to be rudely interrupted by someone else’s negative attack on us or something around them.

Somehow we get dragged into the drama. We do it to others as well, unfortunately. But there is a way to learn how to NOT be so affected and influenced by our thoughts and moods. Simply by being aware of them, we can train ourselves to not take them so seriously. To not be taken over and let our negative thoughts MAKE us feel depressed.

Yes, you are going to feel down sometimes, everyone does. However, you won’t stay that way. If you are staying depressed 24/7 then you might need some help. Fluctuations between a good mood and a bad mood are normal – permanently stuck in a depression is not.

Feeling lonely is normal. Wallowing in it, is a choice. I know it is often very difficult to CHOOSE to not wallow. That sometimes it feels like you are being dragged down with your sad thoughts. It will take that much more strength from yourself to accept those feelings but WILLINGLY not allow your thoughts to control you.

Funny as it is, but when you see them for what they are, as static (as Carlson says in his book), like the static noise of a TV, you can learn to dismiss them, even laugh at them, and not take them so seriously.

At your core is happiness; the cloud of unhappiness is what you need to clear. And you can do this and be happy with yourself and life and stop being depressed and lonely simply by learning how to see your thoughts for what they are, just thoughts. They aren’t reality. They are often your brain running away like a train using the past or worries of the future to ruin your present.

To see if I’m right do this simple exercise:

How to Be Happy Alone

How to Be Happy No Matter WhatClose your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Try not to think. If you can’t make your mind stop, tell it to hush. Don’t picture a pink elephant. Whatever you do DON’T picture a pink elephant.

Open your eyes. How do you feel inside? Are you calm? Are you feeling at peace?

Yes, it might only last a moment. It’s learning how to increase these moments by appreciating the NOW that will allow you to be happy no matter what. You will be less inclined to let the outside world influence the peace that is inside of you all of the time, whether you are alone or not.

If you are depressed and lonely, don’t stay home and think about being depressed and lonely. Go for a walk. Take in the beautiful scenes. Talk to people. Get out of your mind, and out into the world and you will stop feeling so lonely and depressed I assure you.

When we are feeling low it typically means we are fighting what is. We are resisting that which we don’t like, or that which doesn’t feel right. Resisting only makes you feel worse, it is when you stop resisting that you can be freed from the negativity.

How to Stop Feeling LonelyI’m always reminded of the Chinese finger trap when I feel myself resisting what is. You know the one? Where you put your fingers in either side and if you pull, your fingers get more stuck, but if you push in and stop resisting you are freed?

Life is like that. Stop Resisting! If you want to know how to stop feeling lonely, that’s the best advice I can give.

I know how hard it is to feel this way, please leave me a comment below and tell me your thoughts on the matter. If you would like to talk to me personally, you can contact me here.

Your Friend,


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