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Why Does It Take Tragedy To Wake Us Up and Start Living?

Pearl Harbor TragedyI was reading a story recently of a woman who was basically an invalid until the Pearl Harbor strike. It took that horrific event for her to get out of her bed and stop wasting her life away. Up until that point she had been an invalid and spent more than a year in bed with a “bad heart”. She spent 22 out of every 24 hours in bed and claims “I would never have really lived again if the Japanese had not struck Pearl Harbor and jarred me out of my complacency.”

The part that really disturbs me is when she says, “The attack on Pearl Harbor was on of the greatest tragedies in American history, but as far as I was concerned, it was one of the best things that ever happened to me.”

One of the best things that ever happened to her? Really?

I can understand her comment only in the sense that it changed her life for the better. But to have all those people die in a catastrophe? That’s what it finally took to WAKE her up and start living her life?

She was even one of the lucky ones whose husband actually survived. So my question is this:

Why Does It Take Tragedy To Wake Us Up and Start Living?

Why can’t we wake ourselves up and see the beauty around us and be grateful for the things we have rather than focus on the things we don’t, or worse, the illness we suffer?

My only answer is: Boredom and Needing to Feel Useful and Appreciated

When one is bored or complacent with life, or they feel completely neglected, not useful or appreciated…there is little joy in their existence even when it might seem they have it all.

Natural distasters, wars, death, or illness seem to be the only things that wake us up and make us TRULY appreciate when things AREN’T dire like that. In addition, and this woman mentioned this too, excitement. She was excited!! She was excited by the attack and that forced her up and out of bed as she began to assist those around her who needed her.

So my challenge to you is this:

Can you CREATE some excitement in your life without the NEED for something tragic happening to feel it? Can you help, assist or simply brighten someone’s day with a smile, compliment or conversation and see what kind of joy that brings you rather than WAIT for something to jar you out of any complancency you might be feeling?

I know a man who recently passed away from a gigantic fight with cancer. He was brave, resolute, calm and positive. And even with the pain he endured and the fact that in the end he didn’t survive, he never wavered in his strength of will and positive attitude.

Personally, when the little stupid things in life start to try to get me down now I think of him. And I think about how much he would give for just ONE more day on this beautiful earth with the people he loved and even more so ONE more day to live it without the pain he was having to endure.

Live Life With PurposeMost of us have aches and pains and stresses. They can be overwhelming. But they can also be put in perspective. And the best way to do that is to live in day-tight compartments. SEE the forest through the trees. Stop and smell the roses. Look up at the beautiful blue sky, or even enjoy the raindrops on your face as they fall.

Take a deep breath and think maybe that THIS moment is way better than a tragedy. That THIS moment is worth being awake, alert and alive for!

Read How to Stop Worrying and Start Living if you need more inspiration.

If you bored and you simply don’t know how to get out of the “funk” you might be in, and you’d rather no have another Pearl Harbor happen to get out of it – I might suggest you start with FINDING YOUR PASSION.

Please leave me a comment below or contact me directly if you want help doing this.

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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How to Stop Worrying About Everything – Live in Day Tight Compartments

How to Stop Worrying About Everything

How to Stop Worrying About Everthing

Compulsively worrying about every little thing can really take a toll on a person. I can tell you from experience. Worry nearly took me out! The solution? How to stop worrying about everything even when it seems you have no other choice?

Live In Day Tight Compartments

What does that mean? To live in day-tight compartments. It means to only be concerned with (concerned with not worried mind you, there is a difference) with the goings on from sunrise to sundown.

This doesn’t mean you don’t plan for the future, you can certainly take actions that day that will be FOR your future. But you don’t spend your day WORRYING about the future. And you certainly don’t spend your time worrying about the past.

The past should be for one thing (maybe two things) only. To learn from (and to reminisince – in a positive way). It doesn’t do anyone any good, especially not you to be mulling over WHAT happened, what SHOULD have happened, and letting what DID happen haunt you. In the famous words of Disney, cuz you know they invented it…Let It Go.

The idea of living in day-tight compartments was introduced to me by the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. The premise was taken from Sir William Osler who had crossed the Atlantic on an ocean liner in which the Captain upon pressing a button could shut off parts of the ship from one another – shut off into “watertight compartments”.

By doing this with our own lives we are able to really focus our attention on what really matters and not concern ourselves with things that either have happened or have not yet happened (and in most cases, likely never will.)

I was thinking about this concept the other day and looked at it from yet another perspective. Instead of living in our supposed “cushy” lives that we’ve created with a home/mortgage to worry about, children to feed, bills to pay and whatnot. Why not think more like a homeless person who is only concerned about the day ahead of them?

Their concern is likely, (and yes, I am speculating – so I apologize if I have it ALL wrong), what am I going to eat today? Where will I get it? How will I afford it? Where will I sleep tonight?

They are not concerned with how they will afford something 40 years from now. They are simply focused on today and today only. If we all live that way our lives would likely be far more enjoyable and productive and in doing so the future we used to worry about would probably be well taken care of.

You can’t get anywhere by worrying yourself there. Be concerned, be productive and goal oriented…but don’t WORRY about it.

By living in day-tight compartments you will find that it is much easier to handle the things on your plate. Because within that day there is only so much you CAN do, NEED to do and WILL do. You only have to make it to sundown. You don’t need to worry about how to do the things that need to be done tomorrow, next week, next year or years from now.

What will happen?

You will feel lighter 🙂 You will find it easier to accomplish the things you need to accomplish and by accomplishing them you will go to bed that night feeling ACCOMPLISHED and happy and worry free.

But you have to LET IT GO. You have to be willing to set aside the things that are out of your control and only be concerned with the things that are. You have to be willing to go with the flow and realize not everything will go the way you wanted or expected sometimes.

You have to be willing to change your perspective.

If you have been a habitual worrier this might seem like it’ll be a hard habit to break. But if you simply DECIDE to break it, it will be broken. That is the power of our minds. Think it and more often than not, it will be so.

It might not be so immediately, perhaps it will never be so. But keeping a positive mindset will only result in positive outcomes.

Three really great resources on the subject of STOPPING THE WORRY are:

The Power of Now ReviewThe Power of Now

How to Stop Worrying About EverythingHow to Stop Worrying and Start Living

The Sedona MethodThe Sedona Method

What do you think? I’d love to hear your opinion on the matter so please leave me a comment below. If you would like to discuss this further with me, please contact me directly. And if there is something that you are worried about that you simply can’t seem to get past, I’d love to help in any way that I can.

Live in day-tight compartments and see just how smoothly your ship sails!!

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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