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The Importance of a Positive Attitude

The Importance of a Positive Attitude

The Importance of a Positive Attitude – Smile!!

People are so funny. They’ll go to school and learn from books for practical things, “educational” things they would call it. But trying to improve on yourself? Reading books…to learn how to improve yourself? Oh no…they’ll steer clear of that most of their lives. Why?

Possibly because (and I’m speaking from my own past/personal experience here) it would show a sign of weakness? That they need to improve themselves? No way, those self-help aisles are for crazy people or losers.

Again, why?

If you’ve ever gone down one of those aisles (or found things online) and/or picked up some of the books I think you’d be amazed at the wealth of knowledge there. Why not learn from other people who have BEEN there, who have felt it and who discovered something USEFUL that you can apply to your own life?

I know we like to think we are all so “unique” and “original”, and in a TON of ways we are. But when you boil it all down we are all just people and we all go through a lot of the same stuff. That’s just a fact.

When I tried to recommend a couple of books that have really helped me to a friend of mine (who was going through something similar), her response was “I don’t know, I’m not really a fan of self-help books and the media. I would rather realize things like that through experience.”

My response…didn’t have one. Because that’s her opinion and who am I to argue (and honestly part of me agrees with gaining your own experience)? I probably would have had a similar response a few months ago myself. But one thing turned it around for me and an avalanche of amazing resources started flowing into my life. And guess what? They HELPED! A LOT. In all areas of my life.

Did you know that your negative thoughts can physically make you sick?

That you can actually worry yourself into an ulcer, cancer and even an early grave?

It’s true. And mind blowing really. I sort of already knew that a positive mindset was a valuable thing to have, but it wasn’t until I was reading a few of Dale Carnegie’s books – specifically How to Stop Worrying and Start Living that I heard about specific and EXTREME examples of just how true this is.

I’m actually fighting a sore throat right now…and yeah, I might get sick. But until I actually DO, my mindset will be that I’m NOT going to get sick (I’ve always thought this way BEFORE reading any books – but now I know there’s proof!).

I’m actually too busy to get sick, I simply just don’t have time for it. 🙂 But even if I do, it’s not the end of the world, is it? People get sick and they get better and then the colds are a thing of the past – so why WORRY about getting sick? The worry will likely increase the odds that you will!

But how important is a positive attitude really? Isn’t what’s going to happen going to happen regardless of how you think or feel about it?

The answer: Not necessarily.

Have you seen that toothpaste commercial that says, “Life opens up when you do?” That’s actually true. Someone with a positive attitude, a welcoming persona, a smile on their face is going to have far more doors open for them in life than someone with a frown on their face.

A really amazing analogy that I was recently shown and is so true but we rarely think about, is the ebb and flow of life. Just like with the tides, relationships need give and take, you breathe in and out, there’s always good and bad.

When we worry or resist we are often met with resistance, rather than if we go with the flow, we find that our inner state can remain even regardless of what’s going on around us. There’s always going to be conflict, good and bad, red lights, green lights. Why fight it?

Why not have a positive attitude and see the silver lining and see what happens? Could it hurt? I don’t think so.

Okay, those were my thoughts for today, I don’t know if you found them useful or not. Please feel free to leave me a comment below with your thoughts.

And IF you are open to some great books 😉 I highly recommend – (I haven’t even finished them yet!! But they are great. I’ll leave a full review for them when I’m done):

The Sedona Method

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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Understanding How Men Think – Is It Even Possible?

Understanding How Men ThinkAre you having one of those days? You know the kind that send you to Google and makes you type in a silly phrase like “I don’t Understand Men”, naively hoping that an actual solution to your problem will magically appear?

Well, guess what? If you’re reading this – it did. I know…it’s hard to believe, right? Try to contain your excitement.

I know you don’t believe me, yet. Why should you? If you’re like me you’ve spent most of your life dealing with this issue and wondering if understanding how men think is even possible and no matter where you turn, you just don’t get any help and you’re left feeling confused, hurt, annoyed…close to murder.

Okay, maybe not murder…although I suppose it depends on what he did. But we’re all sweet angels here, it’s THE MEN who are the problem. Right?

First, I’m going to have to ask you to stifle your anger and frustration and believe me when I tell you, they aren’t the enemy. They actually do make some sense, and you know what I’ve learned?

They Are Just Like Us! – In what we want and need in life anyway, maybe not how we go about it or deal with it. But the “go about it and deal with it” stuff is what you’re about to get a better understanding of so that you can finally, yes finally, understand how men think.

Where did I learn this you ask? Who is my source and why am I all of a sudden so sure that I’ve “cracked the code” to understanding men?

Well, if you must know my source is this awesome guy named Carlos Cavallo. And before you poo poo the fact that he’s a “relationship” coach and whatnot. Let me tell you something, this guy KNOWS HIS STUFF.

I was amazed. And after listening to his program Irresistible Desire (don’t let the name fool you either – I know it sounds cheesy and salesy and there’s NO WAY it can actually have any redeeming quality to it, but trust me it does), I came away from it knowing all of the answers to my questions.

Questions like:

– Why does he pull away?
– What does it mean when a guy ignores you?
– Why doesn’t he understand me?
– What should I do now?
_ How can I get my Ex back?
– Does he really like me?
– Is he using me?
– Am I too needy?
– Why does he disappear?
– Should I call/text him?
– Should I ask him out?
– Why don’t guys ask me out?
– How can I get him to do the things I need him to do?
– How can we stop fighting?
– Why can’t he communicate better?
– Why does he insist on doing the things that BOTHER me?
– Why does be make me nag instead of just doing what I asked?
– Is the relationship worth saving?
– What Is Going On In His Mind?!

Those are just a FEW of the questions we women have, right? Well, Irresistible Desire and his other program that I also highly recommend Forever Yours answer these and then some.

If you finish his program and still have a question you can ask Carlos directly. That wasn’t necessary for me though, his programs were extremely thorough and I got all the answers I needed and knew exactly what to do after I finished them. I still listen to them to refresh my memory sometimes because even though we do want the same things, sometimes thinking backwards is hard to remember. I’ll give you an example of what I mean.

What To Do When a Man Is Ignoring You

How Men ThinkTo answer the question of, “Why does he disappear…and should I call/text him?”

I discovered that while it’s a woman’s tendency to want to talk about things and or discuss even how a date went…we need the reassurance of a phone call or something otherwise we are left…wondering and becoming anxious.

A guy, on the other hand, needs the distance. They need the space and they need to know that you respect them enough that you’ll allow them to contact you. If they never contact you, well…you have your answer. If you can have patience and give them space…they’ll come back when they are ready. It may seem like you’re ignoring a guy, but trust me…to them, it’s a beautiful silence.

Simple. Easy. Right? Yeah….sure. It isn’t easy, it is very hard for us actually, but knowing that the dynamics in the relationship NEED to be this way for men means that you won’t end up making the mistakes you tend to typically make, because it is OUR instinct to do the opposite.

Obviously, I’m not going to address everything here. Why reinvent the wheel when Carlos has already done a better job than I could ever do? I simply wanted to point you in the direction of an outstanding resource that I highly, and I mean HIGHLY recommend if you are having any problems trying to understand men.

Irresistible DesireAnd believe me when I say that these programs can help you regardless of what your relationship status is. Even if you’ve been with someone for YEARS, knowing this information can help you to have an even better relationship.

Please come back and leave me a comment and let me know what you thought of Irresistible Desire!

If you’ve ever wanted to feel more in control in a relationship (including your own emotions), if you are currently trying to find that special someone, or are with someone and they are leaving you confused and/or hurt a lot of the time…try it. I really think it can help you too!

~ Read My Full Review of Irresistible Desire Here ~

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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