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Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms – Is Broken Heart Syndrome Real?

Broken Heart Syndrome Symptoms

Broken Heart Syndrome?

If you’ve ever had your heart broken (and who hasn’t?), then you know that the physical pain from it is very real. But did you know that broken heart syndrome is an actual thing? That it can actually damage your heart, depending on its severity and cause (and other risk factors per individual)?

While being hurt by a loved one, losing a loved one, being dumped by someone does indeed hurt. Sometimes that hurt can be so intense that it can actually cause physical harm to your body.

During a particularly low period in my life I can attest to the truth of this.

So what is broken heart syndrome?

Put simply, broken heart syndrome is a temporary heart condition that is brought on by a stressful situation. This can include the death of a loved one, but it can also include a severe emotional trauma caused by a signifigant other.

The person experiencing this syndrome may have sudden chest pain that mimics a heart attack. When this occurs there is a temporary disruption of your heart’s normal pumping function while the rest of your heart continues to function normally – but often with more forceful contractions.

They believe this is caused by a surge of stress hormones. It is completely treatable and typically will reverse itself in about a week.

Broken heart syndrome symptoms can include chest pain and shortness of breath. If these symptoms persist it is vital that you call 911 and seek help.

The catalyst to this syndrome is usually evident to the person experiencing it. You know when your heart hurts over a loved one, right? I sure did. It’s believed that adrenaline may temporarily damage the heart of some people, but they aren’t completely clear on why or how. They think a temporary constriction of the large or small arteries of the heart may be why.

Some Possible Triggers for Broken Heart Syndrome

BHS if often preceded by an intense physical or emotional trauma. These can include:

– an unexpected death of a loved one
– domestic abuse
– the loss of a considerable amount of money
– a scary medical diagnosis
– natural disasters
– performing live
– losing a job
– divorce
– a breakup
– asthma attack
– car accident
– major surgery

They also believe that it’s possible that some drugs may cause broken heart syndrome by producing the same result of a release of stress hormones. Some of these drugs include:
– Epinephrine
– Duloxetine
– Venlafaxine
– Levothyroxine

Even though symptoms of broken heart syndrome can appear to be a heart attack, there are some clear distinctions between the two. Heart attacks are typically caused by a complete blockage of a heart artery. Whereas with broken heart syndrome patients, heart arteries are not blocked. Blood flow may reduced, but there is no blockage.

Interestingly, but not surprisingly, BHS affects women far more frequently than men.

But enough about the facts. I want to hear from you. Obviously, you are reading this post because you believe you are suffering from broken heart syndrome. Being someone who has, I know first hand how frightening it can be. Though my symptoms never forced me to hospital
, I did experience a severity so great that I truly could feel my heart weakened.

I can attest that these symptoms are temporary and do right themselves after a time. But the release of the stress hormones and what they are capable of doing to the body is astonishing and quite scary.

The best thing, if your symptoms are not requiring a doctors invervention, is to distract yourself enough to let the intensity pass. Talking with someone is one of the best ways, as is distracting yourself with exercise, work, hobbies and being around friends.

In a moment of crisis, however, this can be impossible. It is no different than when you experience a heart attack, actually. And in those moments, you are only concerned with and consumed by the scary feelings in that moment.

But if you have confirmed that it isn’t a heart attack, or you just know based on what caused the symptoms in the first place, then I think you will be relieved to know that you will be okay.

Please leave me a comment or contact me personally here if you would like to speak to me directly.

Let time heal your heart, you are a strong and resilient person. This too shall pass. I assure you. I’ve been there and I know first hand. In my darkest hour I never thought I’d see light again. But I did, and so will you!

Your Friend,


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What To Do When Men Pull Away

What To Do When Men Pull AwayFinding yourself in that uncomfortable place when a man pulls away after you have what you believed was a breakthrough moment? Been there. It took me years to figure out why men pull away and even though I understand it now, I can’t say I like it very much.

So why do men pull away?

The answer to that can vary, but ultimately…they kinda freak out. In that moment when you feel like you two have gotten a little closer and all you want is to be even closer, they start to panic. They get scared and they don’t know how to handle their own feelings so they do the only thing they can think of…disappear.

Their disappearance allows them to calm down, reflect, regenerate their masculinity (which strangely decreases when we get close – their testosterone levels actually decrease due to chemicals that are released in those moments). For women it is the opposite. While we get a “feel good drug”, they don’t.

The good news? Regardless of the reason, and as I mentioned there can be many different reasons, what you need to do is pretty much the same no matter.

What To Do When Men Pull Away

This answer is going to shock you. Because it is too simple. Okay, I say simple – I didn’t say easy.

When a man pulls away after you have had a moment where you think the two of you should be getting closer, one, don’t freak out. This is normal for guys. And it actually is a dynamic that you want (to some extent), maybe not to the extremes that they do. But, this push and pull in a relationship actually keeps the romance and tension between you. It keeps it from being boring.

So what do you do, while he is away?

1) You don’t call him or contact him at all
2) You spend time with yourself and/or your friends
3) Keep busy, have a life of your own

In regards to him, you do nothing at all.

Some people refer to this as playing “hard to get“. You can think of it anyway that you like, but ultimately, by giving him his space…giving him the gift of missing you, you will actually end up pulling him closer to you without even trying.

I said it was simple. I didn’t say easy because for women this is probably one of the hardest things we have to do, especially when all WE want is to be with him. To feel the happiness we feel when we are with him. The time apart can be excruciating.

It isn’t the same for men, that is the hardest thing for us to realize. While we are anxious and wondering, “why did he disappear”, men are probably thinking about you…but since they have one track minds, they are doing exactly what you should be doing. Living their lives, reclaiming their independence and then ultimately returning to you when they are ready.

And 99% of the time he will come back. However, if you do what you feel inclined to do, which is probably call him and ask him, “Are you okay?”, “Are we okay?”, “Did I do something wrong?”

What these questions end up doing is actually the opposite of your intent. They will push him away further. He will see you as insecure and this won’t work in your favor. To understand this concept better I highly recommend this resource by Carlos Cavallo.

Figuring out what you should do with yourself when he pulls away (when all you want is to contact him and be with him again) can be a difficult thing. It isn’t like you don’t have a life or other activities; work, friends, family, exercise. The problem is, your mind is on him. Your heart is with him. It is distracting and it can be rather debilitating to your ego, your comfort level, your security – but it is an exercise in self control and when you can conquer it, you show him that you are a strong and independent woman who isn’t needy.

You’ll need him for certain things, sure, and he needs this as well. But men don’t like needy or desperate women. So when you can realize that the connection between the two of you affects him differently, on a chemical level in fact, you will be more understanding to why he needs to do this and you will feel more secure that he will return when he is ready.

The bonus is, when you show him that you can give him this space, he will need the breaks less often.

Have questions or comments or suggestions about what to do when men pull away, please leave them below.

Your Friend,


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