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How to Stop Worrying About Everything – Live in Day Tight Compartments

How to Stop Worrying About Everything

How to Stop Worrying About Everthing

Compulsively worrying about every little thing can really take a toll on a person. I can tell you from experience. Worry nearly took me out! The solution? How to stop worrying about everything even when it seems you have no other choice?

Live In Day Tight Compartments

What does that mean? To live in day-tight compartments. It means to only be concerned with (concerned with not worried mind you, there is a difference) with the goings on from sunrise to sundown.

This doesn’t mean you don’t plan for the future, you can certainly take actions that day that will be FOR your future. But you don’t spend your day WORRYING about the future. And you certainly don’t spend your time worrying about the past.

The past should be for one thing (maybe two things) only. To learn from (and to reminisince – in a positive way). It doesn’t do anyone any good, especially not you to be mulling over WHAT happened, what SHOULD have happened, and letting what DID happen haunt you. In the famous words of Disney, cuz you know they invented it…Let It Go.

The idea of living in day-tight compartments was introduced to me by the book How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie. The premise was taken from Sir William Osler who had crossed the Atlantic on an ocean liner in which the Captain upon pressing a button could shut off parts of the ship from one another – shut off into “watertight compartments”.

By doing this with our own lives we are able to really focus our attention on what really matters and not concern ourselves with things that either have happened or have not yet happened (and in most cases, likely never will.)

I was thinking about this concept the other day and looked at it from yet another perspective. Instead of living in our supposed “cushy” lives that we’ve created with a home/mortgage to worry about, children to feed, bills to pay and whatnot. Why not think more like a homeless person who is only concerned about the day ahead of them?

Their concern is likely, (and yes, I am speculating – so I apologize if I have it ALL wrong), what am I going to eat today? Where will I get it? How will I afford it? Where will I sleep tonight?

They are not concerned with how they will afford something 40 years from now. They are simply focused on today and today only. If we all live that way our lives would likely be far more enjoyable and productive and in doing so the future we used to worry about would probably be well taken care of.

You can’t get anywhere by worrying yourself there. Be concerned, be productive and goal oriented…but don’t WORRY about it.

By living in day-tight compartments you will find that it is much easier to handle the things on your plate. Because within that day there is only so much you CAN do, NEED to do and WILL do. You only have to make it to sundown. You don’t need to worry about how to do the things that need to be done tomorrow, next week, next year or years from now.

What will happen?

You will feel lighter 🙂 You will find it easier to accomplish the things you need to accomplish and by accomplishing them you will go to bed that night feeling ACCOMPLISHED and happy and worry free.

But you have to LET IT GO. You have to be willing to set aside the things that are out of your control and only be concerned with the things that are. You have to be willing to go with the flow and realize not everything will go the way you wanted or expected sometimes.

You have to be willing to change your perspective.

If you have been a habitual worrier this might seem like it’ll be a hard habit to break. But if you simply DECIDE to break it, it will be broken. That is the power of our minds. Think it and more often than not, it will be so.

It might not be so immediately, perhaps it will never be so. But keeping a positive mindset will only result in positive outcomes.

Three really great resources on the subject of STOPPING THE WORRY are:

The Power of Now ReviewThe Power of Now

How to Stop Worrying About EverythingHow to Stop Worrying and Start Living

The Sedona MethodThe Sedona Method

What do you think? I’d love to hear your opinion on the matter so please leave me a comment below. If you would like to discuss this further with me, please contact me directly. And if there is something that you are worried about that you simply can’t seem to get past, I’d love to help in any way that I can.

Live in day-tight compartments and see just how smoothly your ship sails!!

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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The Importance of a Positive Attitude

The Importance of a Positive Attitude

The Importance of a Positive Attitude – Smile!!

People are so funny. They’ll go to school and learn from books for practical things, “educational” things they would call it. But trying to improve on yourself? Reading books…to learn how to improve yourself? Oh no…they’ll steer clear of that most of their lives. Why?

Possibly because (and I’m speaking from my own past/personal experience here) it would show a sign of weakness? That they need to improve themselves? No way, those self-help aisles are for crazy people or losers.

Again, why?

If you’ve ever gone down one of those aisles (or found things online) and/or picked up some of the books I think you’d be amazed at the wealth of knowledge there. Why not learn from other people who have BEEN there, who have felt it and who discovered something USEFUL that you can apply to your own life?

I know we like to think we are all so “unique” and “original”, and in a TON of ways we are. But when you boil it all down we are all just people and we all go through a lot of the same stuff. That’s just a fact.

When I tried to recommend a couple of books that have really helped me to a friend of mine (who was going through something similar), her response was “I don’t know, I’m not really a fan of self-help books and the media. I would rather realize things like that through experience.”

My response…didn’t have one. Because that’s her opinion and who am I to argue (and honestly part of me agrees with gaining your own experience)? I probably would have had a similar response a few months ago myself. But one thing turned it around for me and an avalanche of amazing resources started flowing into my life. And guess what? They HELPED! A LOT. In all areas of my life.

Did you know that your negative thoughts can physically make you sick?

That you can actually worry yourself into an ulcer, cancer and even an early grave?

It’s true. And mind blowing really. I sort of already knew that a positive mindset was a valuable thing to have, but it wasn’t until I was reading a few of Dale Carnegie’s books – specifically How to Stop Worrying and Start Living that I heard about specific and EXTREME examples of just how true this is.

I’m actually fighting a sore throat right now…and yeah, I might get sick. But until I actually DO, my mindset will be that I’m NOT going to get sick (I’ve always thought this way BEFORE reading any books – but now I know there’s proof!).

I’m actually too busy to get sick, I simply just don’t have time for it. 🙂 But even if I do, it’s not the end of the world, is it? People get sick and they get better and then the colds are a thing of the past – so why WORRY about getting sick? The worry will likely increase the odds that you will!

But how important is a positive attitude really? Isn’t what’s going to happen going to happen regardless of how you think or feel about it?

The answer: Not necessarily.

Have you seen that toothpaste commercial that says, “Life opens up when you do?” That’s actually true. Someone with a positive attitude, a welcoming persona, a smile on their face is going to have far more doors open for them in life than someone with a frown on their face.

A really amazing analogy that I was recently shown and is so true but we rarely think about, is the ebb and flow of life. Just like with the tides, relationships need give and take, you breathe in and out, there’s always good and bad.

When we worry or resist we are often met with resistance, rather than if we go with the flow, we find that our inner state can remain even regardless of what’s going on around us. There’s always going to be conflict, good and bad, red lights, green lights. Why fight it?

Why not have a positive attitude and see the silver lining and see what happens? Could it hurt? I don’t think so.

Okay, those were my thoughts for today, I don’t know if you found them useful or not. Please feel free to leave me a comment below with your thoughts.

And IF you are open to some great books 😉 I highly recommend – (I haven’t even finished them yet!! But they are great. I’ll leave a full review for them when I’m done):

The Sedona Method

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

Your Friend,

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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