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Get Off Your Butt and Do Something!

Get Off Your Butt and Do Something

How to Get Motivated:

Get Off Your Butt and Get Moving!

Okay, that was mostly geared toward myself, but maybe it applies to you too. In all probability it might. How do I know?

Because as humans we tend to get into these nasty cycles of being unproductive. True, there is usually a reason for it – sometimes entirely legitimate, but let’s face it…sometimes we are just either lazy or overwhelmed to the point that we get paralyzed and end up doing nothing.

If you are currently in that state, as I have been in the last couple of weeks due to some “issues” and the fact that it’s summer and my kids are monopolizing my time, I have a few tips that might help you get out of it.

The First Step:


Don’t blame yourself. Accept that it is natural to enter these states from time to time and they actually have a purpose that they serve.

Rest.

Sometimes, we need it. Life can get pretty stressful at times and we often feel like we simply CAN’T stop because there is just too much to do. Like the entire world would fall off its axis if god forbid we took a break.

We all know that isn’t true.

You do know that right?

You are important, but you aren’t THAT important (as to affect the axis of the world.)

So, accept that you need a break and realize that the much needed “lazy” unproductive time will actually serve you better when you do finally get off your BUTT and start doing things again.

The only thing you want to be wary of is, sometimes it gets pretty darn comfortable on your butt and you really don’t want to get off it.

You can take this to mean two things, one) either it just isn’t time to get going yet or two) you have overstayed your welcome and its gone numb.

Which brings me to…

The Second Step:


Get Off Your Butt

Pretty obvious, yes? But not easy to do sometimes. It takes mental stimulation, it takes will power, strength and sometimes a drive you just aren’t feeling yet. But you have to FORCE it, sorry to say. But sometimes you truly just have to convince yourself to do it.

It’s time.

Don’t feel any guilt over the fact that you needed the rest. Thoroughly enjoy it and when it’s time (it’s pretty easy to tell when it’s time), get moving again.

Return to life and resume your routines. But this time around…mix it up a little!

Sometimes those moments of burnout happen and you end up on your bum because you didn’t take any time for yourself in the daily grind that is life. It is essential that you do. Otherwise you get bored. You get exhausted. And you simply can’t function at your best.

So after you’ve gotten off your darier this time, make sure you schedule some “YOU” time and do something that you enjoy during each and every day. Yes, I said everyday!

I’m a firm believer in making each day count.

I stopped calling it, “Live today as if it were your last”, frankly because that just seemed morbid and depressing.

Instead, I say make each and every day count because each day is an amazing gift. And one that should be cherished. You don’t have to have a scarcity mindset, or even an abundance attitude that you have all the time in the world.

You simply have to realize that each moment is something special and each day should include something that will make it an AMAZING one for you.

Yes, we all have to do things we don’t like or want to do. But we are still essentially in control of our own lives, destiny and we do have choices. So, choose YOURSELF more often and you will likely not find yourself on your butt unable or unwilling to get off of it.

I will say, my excuse this time was warranted, because I wanted to spend my time with my children while they are out of school. Selfish I know. But I figured a lot of my work could wait. So I allowed myself the time to spend with them and enjoy it.

Yes, I felt a little guilty that my work was waiting for me. But guess, my work doesn’t have a voice. It only does if I let it.

So how do you get off your butt when you are so “attached” to your current cushion? Take a deep breath. Think about and appreciate the break you just took for yourself and think about ONE thing that you should probably get to.

Just one thing. Don’t overwhelm yourself with the LONG list that probably awaits you, that’s only going to make you SIT longer, trust me. Just come up with ONE thing that you should focus on.

Take another deep breath and get up and do that ONE thing.

My guess, once you get up and your legs realize they CAN move, you’ll easily move onto the other tasks that await you.

Being “stuck” can lead to depression, too many thoughts (often negative) and usually force you to stay down.

My daughter (the 8 year old genius) put it perfectly the other day when I asked her: “Why do our minds always go to the “what ifs” in life? Why do we tend to always focus on the negative that will likely never happen?”

I was kind of just speaking out loud at the time. I didn’t expect such an insightful answer from her. And one I already knew, but couldn’t come up with on my own in that moment, don’t ask me why.

She said: “Because we have too much time on our hands.”

It’s true. We do.

Well, most of us. Even when we work and have a million tasks to do. We still have too much time to THINK. Our lifestyle of convenience has made it so.

If we lived elsewhere and our entire day was only focused on SURVIVAL, guess what? You wouldn’t be what if-ing really stupid things that you can’t control anyway.

You were likely feeling overwhelmed when you sat down. You sat down for a reason, it’s okay. Enjoy your rest, and get up when you’re ready.

Don’t take too long – the world awaits you!

I would love to hear your thoughts on this matter, or if you’re stuck and need some motivation. Please leave me a comment below.

Tess
NurturingYourBody.com

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Finding Inner Peace and Forgiveness When Someone Has Wronged You

One of the hardest things to do when someone has hurt you or made you angry is to stay calm and forgive them. It is far too easy to let your emotions take over and unfortunately, this is probably the worst thing you can do.Finding Inner Peace

But I know first hand that sometimes the feelings are so strong there is no way you can control them. And then you end up regretting your actions.

So how can you find inner peace and forgiveness when someone has wronged you? How can you take the high road and feel good about it without feeling like you are not sticking up for yourself (all you want is respect and to be treated fairly right?)

Well the answer is quite simple. It’s not simple to do, but the answer to how to achieve this is…do nothing. Your best course of action when you want nothing more than to react is to NOT react. Let non reaction be your reaction.

I told you it isn’t simple or easy, or even possible sometimes. I personally have come a long way, 10 years ago I couldn’t possibly do anything of the sort. I’ve still got work to do at controlling my emotions and self control. But I have come a long way and now…instead of never feeling like I can control my behavior and in the “moment” I often still can’t, depends on the moment, but now it takes me a considerable less amount of time to feel the peace and forgiveness that I want to find. I’m hoping with more work and reflection that someday I will be able to feel these things right then and there, in that moment, when you want nothing more than to react…I will simply take a deep breath and let it go and if need be, walk away.

There are some tools (i.e methods and books) that I’ve used to help aid me in my search for inner peace. I was always a forgiving person, but sometimes that forgiveness would take quite awhile. It is practically instantaneous now, because I know better.

I know that holding on to the anger does me no good. It won’t help the situation and it only ends up hurting me more. So I let it go. Sometimes I need to go for a long walk. Often times I need to be alone in order to finally feel better – you do whatever you have to do, because hanging onto anger…is pointless and will only hurt you.

What is that saying? “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”How to Deal with Anger

So my recommendations if you are looking for inner peace and trying to figure out how to deal with a difficult situation where you feel you were wronged, start by reading these books.

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
Zen: A simple path to more happiness, more tranquility, and less problems by Andrew Daley

All of these books will tell you that one of the best things you can do is meditate and to breathe. This is the beginning to finding what it is you are looking for and I highly recommend them. Sometimes even now when I’m having a difficult time de-stressing or dealing with a difficult situation I will turn to these books, simply reading the words and taking a moment is all I need to calm down.

Please leave any comments or questions you have below, and if you have any book recommendations that have particularly helped you, please share 🙂

Thanks,

Tess
Owner, NurturingYourBody.com

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