Where Have All the Good Men Gone?

After dealing with a copious amount of rude and disrespectful behavior today I couldn’t help but think of this line from a song.

Where have all the good men gone?

Know that one? From Bonnie Tyler, Holding Out for a Hero.

It’s always been a favorite of mine, especially after seeing my favorite actors and actresses perform it on Fame.

I haven’t felt that line ring truer than after dealing with two particular individuals today.

I’m a very tolerant person. Patient. Kind. Understanding. Forgiving.

But honestly, after dealing with a ridiculous amount of disrespect today I seriously had to take a step back and wonder, what happened to everyone?

Where HAVE all the good men gone?

Now, I don’t want to sound like I’m lumping an entire gender into the doghouse, I happen to be seeing a gentleman at the moment and thank GOD for that, especially after today if it weren’t for him I would seriously wonder if ANY good men still existed.

Here’s why:

I am currently dealing with two separate cell phone problems. One cell phone is mysteriously accruing data usage and charges despite data always being turned off and the other, well, it wouldn’t call or receive phone calls. Small problem since it is a phone after all.

The two phones are on different carriers so I had the pleasure of visiting two different stores and two different people.

The first store left me feeling angry, violated and speechless. As the tech was inspecting my phone I caught him snooping through my photos. He didn’t notice that I was aware and if my children hadn’t been with me the man would have gotten an earful. Instead, I spoke up and said, “let me try and call someone now.”

He didn’t actually do anything to my phone that I wouldn’t have tried and the problem will likely still persist. And now I’m left wondering if he snuck spyware onto my phone. Am I a little suspicious? You’re damn right I am.

The second store was even worse than the first.

This tech wouldn’t even hear me out, argued with me and spoke to me in a condescending and disrespectful way in front of my children and basically called all three of us liars.

No one at that company would listen to me when I say, “we don’t use data. EVER!”

Nope, they would simply say, “looks like you used it, nothing we can do. Your children probably turned it on.”

Did they? No, they did not. Why would they when they are always home with WIFI? Why would they when we didn’t even know we had data? Why would they if we know that would cost more and we are trying to keep costs down?

All logical questions, but the company doesn’t care. And the company has no problem being rude to its customers.

So guess what? The company just lost a customer who was about to add another line. No siree would I ever do that now.

Why did I ask this question about good men when I’m only discussing these two?

Because they were within 5 minutes of each other. And the level of disgustingness and disrespect was palpable. It left a mark. A huge impression and if I hadn’t just written this I would say, I’m speechless.

When did it become okay in these people’s lives to put down women in such a way?

They aren’t the first lately that I’ve dealt with. I know they won’t be the last.
And I’m sad. I’m sad that it seems the generation of respectful, hard-working, loyal and kind men are gone.

Who will there be for my daughter? How will she ever learn to trust anyone when there are so many distrustful ones out there?

What’s to become of the dynamic when it seems the future generations have all become lazy, immersed in their phone and computer screens and have forgotten how to truly live.

What can we do to change this? Is it even possible?

I looked for a hero for a long time. At the moment I think I may have found one. But I’m extremely cautious. And I probably will be for a long time. I simply don’t have a large supply of great examples and experiences to feel more hopeful.

My father is a hero. And I’ve known a few others.

But these two men today really made me wonder. How can you feel good about yourselves after treating a woman and her children like that?

How can you look at yourself in the mirror knowing what you did?

Since it’s not likely to be the last time you do it, how do you live with yourself? Where is your self-respect?

Part of me wishes I had handled things differently today but given that my children were with me and I was doing my best to keep my cool, I’m not sure what else I would have done.

But I do know that I will no longer stay with a company that employs people of such low standards.

If you know any heroes please leave a comment below or message me. The good ones should be highlighted and thanked!

Also if you have any stories that you want to share about your own experiences please don’t hesitate. Knowledge is power.

Your friend,

Kat
nurturingyourbody.com